Recently, we got some huge news from our friends. 3 (!!), 3 couples of our AMAZING friends are expecting little ones next spring. While I will spare you the gushing and over the top excitement I feel for all of them, very quickly for First-Time-Moms the conversation turns to “what do we need”. Anyone who has children will tell you, babies come with A LOT of gear. Some of it completely necessary, some of it is just to make your life during those early months easier – and when you’re running on little-to-no sleep, easy is necessary.
So here it is, the things that make my life easier as a mom. Things we had on our registry, and things we have bought along the way that I can’t do without. Later on I will revise the list for “Best Registry Items” and “Nursery” – but here is the big list for now!
First, a few comments. I’ve tried to be thorough here, but some mommas will disagree with my picks – these are the things I love best. Second, most things for babies and kids come in these shocking (sometimes awful) colours. While kids love bright colours, there are ways that you can maintain some design and aesthetic in your home while having the same function, I tried to do that. And finally, COST, babies are expensive… do you need a designer play mat, probably not, the one 1/3 the price is just fine – but it is still OK to want the fancy one!
Stroller/Sleep
Stroller
We have the UppaBaby Cruz in Taylor (navy). A few reasons I love this stroller:
- The Cruz is narrower than the Vista, making it better suited for our small apartment
- While the Cruz doesn’t convert to a double stroller for down the line, you can still add on most of the same accessories, including the skateboard at the back for toddlers and small children, and the bassinet for newborns
- The bassinet – more on that below
- Ease! Not only does it fold down quickly and easily, you can transfer between a car seat (with adaptor in some cases), the toddler seat and the bassinet very easily.
- One of my must haves for our stroller was that we could have the baby facing us as we push, or turned the other way around as they got older – this meets that criteria.
Car Seat
We went with the Peg Perego 4-35. Why, because it went on sale, and we could buy an adaptor for our UppaBaby that still cost less than buying the MaxiCosi carseat that matches the stroller. There are rankings for these things of course, but cost and ease were important to us – and it was still very highly rated.
Sleep
Bassinet (0-4.5 months)
Everly slept in the UppaBaby bassinet until she was about 4.5 months old, when we moved her to her crib. We borrowed the stand from my cousin, and had her sleeping in our room right next to the bed for the first few months. (Frankly, at $149, the bassinet stand is a price addition, so if you can borrow one, or buy one second hand, go for it – otherwise, the floor next to your bed is an easy substitute).
If you go this route, I highly recommend getting a second mattress cover for the bassinet.
Once she was rolling over, we moved her into a crib in our room until 6 months. After 6 months we moved her into her own room.
Noise Machine
Everly sleeps through the night every night with a noise machine – so we don’t mess with it. We have an owl from SkipHop that also doubles as a night light and projects stars on the ceiling – she’s just at the age now that she thinks thats cool.
Friends of ours gave us a Sleep sheep, and other friends use the “Shussher” both are awesome options if you don’t think you can sleep with all night white noise (note: you get used to it, and you’re too tired to care too). They each have options for timed play, 15-45 mins.
Swaddle Sacks/Sleep Sacks
We’ve gone through a few phases with sleep sacks, but I am SOLD on their use and necessity! From muslin to winter weight, they are so handy, and were incredibly useful when we were getting Everly onto a schedule later on – sleep sack = nap time!
Crib & Mattress
A friend of mine sent me some devastating article about the flame retardant they put on mattresses and how noxious fumes come from it. So we went with the Sealy Nature Couture Soybean Serenity, it got good ratings and was on the article’s approved list.
Pick whichever crib you think fits best for you, as a reference, this is the one that we have Babyletto Modo 3-in-1 convertible crib
Monitor
We chose the Motorola wireless video monitor, just makes things easy. Nothing fancy, no Wifi (there are some creeeeeepy stories about them getting hacked). But it works well, and its small enough to move around with us when we travel.
Diapering
Where I may be willing to save on certain things, our changing pad is truly worth every cent! The Keekaroo Peanut is the only changing pad I tell anyone to consider. It wipes clean, sits on top of any dresser, no fancy bells and whistles necessary (it means you don’t have to buy that fancy dresser for your nursery!). We rotate through 2 portable changing pads on the peanut, just because the plastic can be a little cool sometimes.
Ubbi Diaper Pail
We chose this one, because you don’t have to use fancy bags or buy refills for this one! And it comes in really cute colours to match your nursery.
Note: We have a little basket next to the peanut just to store the diapers and wipes in. It’s just a silly one I found at winners/TJ.Maxx, definitely a necessity too. At first we had them in the drawer but that was too much work.
Feeding
Whether you a breast feeding or bottle feeding, or both (see my post Fed is Best for more on that), a few things made my life SO much easier!
Nursing moms
My BreastFriend
For nursing, this is my absolute must, other moms might suggest the Boppy pillow, but I LOVE this pillow – here’s why!
- It clips around you! When Evie was super tiny, I could stand up holding the pillow and her, which took a little pressure off my healing body.
- It has a pocket – for your water bottle, phone, her bottle, cell phone, whatever – this was very useful
- Makes nursing on the couch, bed, a chair wherever more comfortable; they also make one for twins if you need it!
Breast Pump
I was planning on nursing, and originally thought breast pumps were only used to provide a bottle for the baby for Dad or a babysitter to give the baby, I was sorely wrong. Turns out the Madela Swing (Single) pump that I got was NOT cutting it – spending 15 mins on each side at 3am while Nick and Everly slept was miserable. So I switched after a few weeks and bought the Madela Pump in Style (double pump) – made my life 100x easier and cut my pumping time to just 15 mins.
Bottles
Most of our friends here use the Dr. Brown’s Bottles. We’ve always used Phillips Avent and the Medela ones that came with my pump. (note: we got lucky, Everly never rejected any bottles)
Bottle Cleaning
Boon Grass Drying rack – best just to keep clean and sanitized bottles clear of general dirty dishes, I would put this in the MUST have category. Again, Boon makes things in some really harsh colours, I chose the white one.
When Everly was first taking a bottle, she was still taking pre-made formula, which is sterile. Ensuring the bottle was sterile as well was drilled into us by our Lactation Consultant, making this Bottle Sterilizer a MUST!!
Bath
We use the Burts Bees Baby Wash, I love the smell of it, and she has never had any issues with her skin, don’t know if the 2 are related or not, but I love it.
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Baby Tub
I loooooved this one. The Boon Baby bath collapses, can be used on an angle or as a full infant tub until they’re ready for the big bath. Whether you have the space to store a baby bath tub or not, this one has been excellent.
Gear
Boba Wrap
Infant insert
Facing in
Baby carrier
Having the sling was perfect when E was a newborn, it means you can get stuff done! Now, we LOVE the Ergobaby360 carrier. It trades between Nick and I seamlessly.
When E was just out of the sling, we used the infant insert, pretty much until about 4.5-5 months. The 360 also turns into a backpack carrier for toddlers – haven’t tried this one yet.
- Boba Wrap for newborn-3mo (3 views of their YouTube how-to and I was a pro)
- Carrier 3+ months (comes in a few colours, we have navy)
Swing/Bouncer
When it comes to baby gear, oh man the colours. Toys are bright for a reason, I get it, but it also has to be sitting in my living room for the next forever… so, we made a few calculated decisions.
- This is the one we have, the colours were slightly muted so I went for it
- This is the one I really wanted…but the price was my stopping point
Swing
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Some babies hate the swing, Everly could nap in it for hours and hours, and it meant I could leave her in it and do things… so for us it was necessary.
This is the one we have, the benefit of this one is that it has a detachable rocker for those times you need a shower, or to go to the bathroom etc. Always necessary to have a portable something or other for the baby, especially when they are really little.
This is the one we had when Everly was born that we borrowed. I liked it better, but the one we have substitutes as a rocker – and a 2-for-1 deal is not a bad thing – in case you hadn’t caught on yet… babies are expensive.
If you want a babyrocker, the common one to get is the mommaRoo, I hear great things, but they’re pricey – to me that removes them from the list – also where do you store that beast afterwards?! Others swear by this baby Bjorn Bouncer.
Things for later on….
Activity Centre aka “Circle of neglect”
I HIGHLY recommend it for 5 months + It’s what I leave Everly in now when I have to run and grab something or use the bathroom. Again, most are terrible colours, this one isn’t! Everly loves it. I’ll give her a few snacks in a little bowl and she will content herself in there while I finish up chores.
Bath Mat
Once Everly could sit up by herself, we realized that this was a must have! No slipping and sliding in the bath.
Pack and Play
If you plan on travelling to a friends or Grandma’s or out of town… chances are you will need one of these. We went with the price sensitive option, but there are some that are much more transportable, lighter or have more bells and whistles… Whatever you choose, you will probably need one like this, this or this.
High Chair
The most common one I hear recommended is the highchair from Ikea! Cheap, wipes clean, has a little padded insert you can get – easy. This is the one that we chose (white and navy), it sits on our own chair, clips on easily, wipes clean, washable seat pad, and it doesn’t take up a huge amount of space!